This Is Why Happy Couples Don’t Talk About Their Relationships on Social Media

We live in a strange time, when for some people a status on the Internet can have more significance than what’s happening in the real world. We evaluate someone’s life based on the photographs that appear on their Facebook page and what they write about themselves. And we’re often wrong in our judgments.

When people are happy in their relationship, they live in the here and now

If everything’s going well in a person’s life and relationship they just don’t see any sense in wasting time writing posts online to prove this fact to others. It’s not that they never take photos or check their social media feeds, but their lives are already making them so happy that they have no need to be distracted by it.

Any couple that parades their relationship problems online for all to see will gain nothing from it

Revealing all your personal problems to everyone you know on social media is about the least effective method available for solving your issues. It’s only going to make things worse in your relationship.

Real happiness comes from simply being in a happy relationship with someone you love

You’ll gain nothing from posting evidence of how happy you are on your Facebook page. The joy is to be found in being together, not in posting about being together. For people who understand this, constantly posting on social media has little appeal.

No one has to prove anything to anyone

People who are in a truly happy relationship don’t have any interest in using each other to prove how happy they are to others. They’re together because they want to be, and they couldn’t care less whether their page says "in a relationship" or not.

And the most important thing...

Researchers have found that those who don’t use social media are on the whole happier than those who do because they don’t constantly compare themselves with their colleagues and friends — all of whom always appear to be somehow better or happier. We too often forget that all that matters are our real lives, our relationships, our experiences, and our feelings — and not the endless search for popularity online.

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